Core Services: Anxiety, depression, fear, low self-esteem, Bereavement, sudden loss, unresolved grief, Crisis of faith, spirituality, the meaning of life, Effects - childhood trauma - physical/sexual/emotional abuse, General exploration, personal identity and development, Stressful changes in life, work or family
“Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack, a crack in everything
That's how the light gets in.”
Leonard Cohen - Anthem
Cohen's lyrics speak powerfully to me about accepting our flaws, about rejecting perfection as a criterion for acceptance or inclusion. Our worthiness does not depend on how good we are. We are inherently worthy.
You, like many of us, may find this knowledge inexplicable, hard won or easily forgotten. Therapy can help you come to know it, remember and practice it. You may need help to navigate a world that tells you in so many ways that you are not good enough. In my experience, you can learn to ease off on the unrelenting effort of trying so hard. You can learn to listen deeply to your inner wisdom and distinguish it from the self-critical voices, the internalized cruelty or societal pressures that masquerade as helpful, but are in fact, harmful.
Negative self-talk, self-defeating behaviour and limiting beliefs came from early attempts to solve life's problems with the limited and often flawed information available at the time. These behaviours and beliefs are the cracks. They show the way, provide the clues. And once the old patterns are made conscious, it is possible to come up with present day, life-affirming solutions to the old problems.
And then there is the Light. While therapy involves a certain amount of figuring things out, there is also the mystery of transformation that happens when you are able to sit gently with your troubles, with your suffering. Being with one's self, bringing compassion rather than judgement to brokenness, allows the Light which is both within and without to illuminate and transform.
This isn't for the faint of heart. It takes profound courage to face deep pain, to acknowledge powerful feelings, to trust a process that can include dark alleys, dead ends and steep climbs. That's why most people need accompaniment, a guide who has been making her own journey and isn't going to be afraid of your story, because she has, and does, face her own.
I've been in practice since 1991, working mostly with adults who were hurt as children and want freedom from the long-reaching impact that this has had on their lives. I love this work. I am moved by my clients' courage, vulnerability, wisdom and willingness to share a part of their journey with me. My goal is that our work together not only ease your suffering, but increase joy in your life.
My professional training includes insight-oriented psychotherapy as well as Focusing, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Dissociative Disorders, Psychodrama and Grief work. I have maintained a meditation practice, both individually and with a group since the early '90's; various spiritual paths have informed my own journey.
I work with clients - and may be able to help you - with issues of childhood abuse and trauma, dissociative disorders, grief, depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, confusion, meaning-making, purpose in life and spiritual growth.
Feel free to give me a call or send an exploratory email. We can talk and see if there is a fit between what you need and what I can offer. I look forward to speaking with you.